Let’s get real for a minute, shall we? We all have those days where it seems as if no amount of motivation is going to be enough – those days where we manage to piss off people without trying; where every project seems to flop; where we just can’t seem to muster enough courage, strength or “oomph” to keep moving forward. Those days suck! But how do you get through them?
Launching our signature collection has been my complete focus for the past three months. I’ve worked 20 hour days creating designs, sourcing materials, choosing colors and dreaming of the day I can put the full collection online and call it finished. In those three months, I’ve stopped and started more times than I care to remember. I’ve thrown fits, pulled at my hair, walked away and come back repeatedly and still I keep moving forward. Sometimes, I seriously have to ask myself “What’s going to motivate me today?” Because to be honest, there are days when I seriously struggle to keep moving in the direction of my dream, and I know from reading the forums that I belong to, and watching videos on YouTube that I am not alone. We all have those days – you know the ones.
So, I wanted to ask you – when you feel like giving up, throwing in the towel and walking away, what keeps you going? What motivates you to go through one more day, or hour, or sometimes – even another minute? Is it money? Is it accolades? Or is it something deeper?
For me, staying motivated has become crucial to life. I have several different weapons in my arsenal – I go for a walk or watch a good movie, read some motivational quotes on my Pinterest board, read over my goals in my Bullet Journal, have a cup of coffee and a long chat with a friend, and sometimes, I just sit down and have a good cry. But there are days when it seems that no matter what I do to stay motivated, it’s just not happening. I call those my “no adulting” days. Come on, admit it, you have them too.
On those days I don’t force it. If I cannot work, I cannot work – period. Sometimes its due to legitimate health issues (I urge everyone to research Chronic Neurological Lyme Disease), other days it’s due to other issues that have nothing to do with me in particular but have everything to do with the life I live – whether its a marriage thing, a financial thing, or a mothering thing – and sometimes, its just because. UGH, how I hated that answer from anyone when I was a kid! “Why can’t I do this or that?” I’d ask my mother an hear “Just because.” But now? Now I get it. There are days when “just because” is the best answer I can give.
One thing that has helped me so much on this journey is to not beat myself up so badly. We are our own worst critics, or so its said. I believe it! I’m the first one to notice that I didn’t meet all of my housekeeping goals for the day because a piece I’ve been working on took longer than I expected, or that I didn’t get as much created today as I’d planned on because my day was filled with constant interruptions. Learning how to push me forward without pushing myself down has been one of the most beneficial things in my life.
One of the first things I had to learn to do was let go of the small stuff. In the grand scheme of things, the world isn’t going to collapse if my bed doesn’t get made for a day, or I don’t get dinner on the table at exactly 6 PM. I’ve had to learn that I do not have to answer the phone every time it rings or the door everytime someone knocks. My greatest obligation is to my own well being because without that I cannot care for others. Sometimes, that well being and peace of mind only come when I am busy working toward my goal of the launch. Learning to let go of the small things that really aren’t that great in the big picture, has helped me maintain some of my focus and motivation, not just in work, but in everything.
I’ve also had to learn how to prioritize. I think, as women, we tend to get our priorities all mixed up depending on where we are in our lives. When we’re newlyweds, the marriage comes first, then we have children and they come first. What I failed to realize for a long time was that taking care of myself first – my mental and physical health, my emotional and spiritual well being – was crucial to me being able to take care of everyone else’s needs. We can’t draw water from an empty well.
On days when I just cannot “adult” anymore, here are my top five go-to motivation boosters. What are yours? Share with me in the comments below.
- Take a hot shower or bath – this always soothes and relaxes me and gives me a fresh feeling
- Watch a great inspirational movie or video – I keep Gaia on my bookmarks bar and watch some fantastic personal development videos
- I move everything on my “to do” list forward to the next day and just take a day to rest, relax and rejuvenate
- I peruse designs on Pinterest
- I get out of the house and go for a walk, or go to the store, or just go visit a friend
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